Gay autistics exist, and we need a name
As a gay autistic, I wasn't really surprised when I learned that gender identity…
The ugly truth about Grindr and exclusion-based dating
Exclusion-based dating has long been a widely embraced norm for apps and services like…
Is magical thinking destroying your chance at an authentic life?
Are you sitting down, dear reader? There’s something I need to tell you: almost…
Dating apps are surveillance capitalism at its most cynical
As someone with a natural tendency for obsessive compulsiveness, I loathe visits to the…
Enough with the toxic culture of COVID-19 shaming
After 10 months of trying to evade COVID-19, the virus finally caught me. No—I…
Why choice in app-based dating is a cruel illusion
As someone with a natural tendency for obsessive compulsiveness, I loathe visits to the…
Five steps to a fantastic gay relationship
Throughout my twenties, I stumbled from one unsuccessful gay relationship to another, thwarted by…
How to avoid becoming a gay dating app sociopath
Much of the small talk that happens on gay dating apps is, in my…
Be kind. Stop the oppressive cycle of internalized gay shame.
My lack of body coordination has always been a painful fact, evoking a gay…
How judgmentalism is ruining gay dating
Gay dating is riddled with pitfalls, but perhaps the most significant is the rampant…