What really surprised me, however, was the fact that people like me didn’t yet have a name.
To explain: when you argue that male/man and female/woman occupy two points on the far ends of gender expression, you exclude other identities that may not entirely exist between these two points.
For example, intersex people might feel their sex characteristics are outside of existing categories of male or female.
One alternative to the spectrum model created by the organization Trans Student Educational Resources is the gender unicorn model.
The unicorn model is a lot more open-ended than the spectrum model where it comes to defining gender, sex, and physical and emotional attraction.
The five categories used in the unicorn model are gender identity, gender expression, the sex one assigned at birth, whom you are physically attracted to, and whom you are emotionally attracted to.
So rather than describing people like us as being on two spectrums, I’m going to roll with the term “spectrum unicorn”.
I think using this label can be a great way to identify those of us who are both autistic and LGBTQI+. It also opens the conversation to exploring some of the unique challenges we might face.
The theory of intersectionality is all about, well, intersections—not of traffic, but our identities.
But let’s say we use the traffic metaphor. In this case, the cars are our individual identities and intersections the contexts that define how they interact.
For instance, as someone who is gay and autistic, I sometimes felt stigmatized and oppressed on two fronts by wider society. This means I experience double the minority stresses.
Growing up, I was mocked for both my interests as a gay boy and for my autistic behaviors.
And even within the LGBTQI+ community, I have felt excluded and marginalized for being autistic.
For instance, as someone who has sensory sensitivities, gay nightclubs and circuit parties are incredibly overwhelming and thus unpleasant.
This means therefore I can’t easily participate in some aspects of mainstream gay culture, which reflects the ableism of wider society.
Conflicts between LGBTQI+ and autistic identities are a pretty big topic, and one I plan to explore in a later post. But if you at all relate to anything I’ve said today, let me know in the comments.
Do you identify as autistic and LGBTQI+? What are some of the challenges you’ve faced due to these identities? Have you experienced conflicts between them?
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