Trauma recovery begins when denial, repression, and dissociation end
The first proof of my trauma recovery was the return of memories once thought…
Gay autistics exist, and we need a name
As a gay autistic, I wasn't really surprised when I learned that gender identity…
Is there a place for the graysexual identity within the LGBTQ+ community?
Apparently being LGBTQ+ also means being hypersexual. At least, that’s what many of us…
Yes, male privilege exists. But it carries a terrible cost—especially if you’re gay.
The dominance of the male gender is visible not only in male privilege,=but also…
Gay dating and hookup apps and the hidden cost of ‘distraction capitalism’
Gay dating and hookup apps dangle the promise of in-person interactions, yet no one…
‘Breadcrumbing’: the gay dating app practice that destroys connection
If you've ever used a gay dating app before, you've likely experienced "flash in…
The ugly truth about Grindr and exclusion-based dating
Exclusion-based dating has long been a widely embraced norm for apps and services like…
The ‘dark patterns’ that keep us hooked on gay geosocial apps
To what does the gay geosocial app Grindr owe its success? Is it the…
How magical thinking destroys gay men’s chances of living authentically
Are you sitting down, dear reader? There’s something I need to tell you: almost…
Dating apps are surveillance capitalism at its most cynical
As someone with a natural tendency for obsessive compulsiveness, I loathe visits to the…